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Assume Positive Intent

Let's say you were at a social gathering and saw someone you knew. If that person was nearby and didn't say Hi, would you:

a) assume they didn't see you or got distracted?
b) assume they purposely avoided you because they were upset for some unknown reason?

A few years ago, I read a book by Matthew Kelly that gave me a great perspective. It made me realize how often humans automatically assume the worst about situations. However, WE ARE OFTEN COMPLETELY WRONG about our assumptions, and when in doubt, we should always assume positive intent!

I will be the first to admit I used to default to negative thinking in these scenarios. And why is that? It's usually a result of my own insecurities. (OUCH.) Think about it; we typically judge others to make *ourselves* feel better about areas where we lack the most confidence.

After gaining this perspective, I immediately started disciplining myself to assume all things good unless I had concrete proof otherwise. It takes constant work, but it has removed so much toxic thinking from my life and unnecessary stress! Another thing to consider is this–wouldn't you want others to assume positive intent about YOU? Say, for example, someone texts you some good news, but the message never shows up on your phone. Would you want that person automatically assuming that you were purposefully being rude by not responding back?

Bottom line, let's all give each other a little more grace. Think positive about others and assume (and hope) people will return the kindness and do the same to you.